Wednesday, January 23, 2008
The pampered mother
postings have been sparse since the first of the year. i was just so tired, so totally exhausted after a schizophrenic fall, that i couldn't even think of anything to say. now that is amazing in itself!!
i am on the upside now having accomplished a lot of the busy stuff that is necessary following a death. in some ways, there was not a lot to do, well some bills to be paid, some insurance to be dealt with and checking on some other items....that is all done as far as i can tell. there is still the sadness and the awareness of someone important missing from my daily life. that will be there for a long time to come.
the middle child became concerned about my failure to snap back into shape and contacted the father figure, discussions were held and she decided to come to the rescue and do some pampering. at first i was overwhelmed by the idea of just one more thing on my plate, but by the time the weekend arrived i was sufficiently recovered to be looking forward.
it was an amazing treat. i was stunned by thinking how long it had been since someone had asked what i wanted to do and i had answered honestly instead of weighing and measuring how it would impact on someone else. i really couldn't remember another instance! that is scary, and i guess i need to make some subtle changes. i'm never going to be the person who declares "it's my time now!", but i need to believe that i am worth some treats now and then.
and treats there were. we went shopping and had fun doing it then had a good lunch at a nice restaurant. next there was a movie.....the first for me in several years, and we saw juno. it was a delight....laughs and tears, all the good stuff. we made dinner together that evening and it was a darn good meal too! it was such fun, and a nice way of bonding with a grown up daughter.
the next day, sunday, was the ultimate.......i was gifted with a massage, my first, and hopefully not the last. it was totally wonderful and luxurious and just perfect. the place was great, and altho our signals got a bit mixed due to misinformation from the receptionist, i enjoyed reading in front of the fireplace and sarah had a nice conversation with another client while we supposedly waited for eachother's "therapy" to be completed.
the next day the 3 of us went out for bagels and coffee and spent some pleasant time visiting and enjoying the atmosphere. before she left we hung pictures in the living, dining, kitchen areas, and finally the place looks warm and lived in. it's wonderful to have some of my favorite things on the walls again, and i feel it's a great improvement.
all together it gave me such a huge boost, and i hope that i will remember how great it felt to me and be able to pass on the same feeling to others when they need it. i plan to indulge myself now and then too.....that may take some doing, but i hope i can get to that place and just do it!
i am on the upside now having accomplished a lot of the busy stuff that is necessary following a death. in some ways, there was not a lot to do, well some bills to be paid, some insurance to be dealt with and checking on some other items....that is all done as far as i can tell. there is still the sadness and the awareness of someone important missing from my daily life. that will be there for a long time to come.
the middle child became concerned about my failure to snap back into shape and contacted the father figure, discussions were held and she decided to come to the rescue and do some pampering. at first i was overwhelmed by the idea of just one more thing on my plate, but by the time the weekend arrived i was sufficiently recovered to be looking forward.
it was an amazing treat. i was stunned by thinking how long it had been since someone had asked what i wanted to do and i had answered honestly instead of weighing and measuring how it would impact on someone else. i really couldn't remember another instance! that is scary, and i guess i need to make some subtle changes. i'm never going to be the person who declares "it's my time now!", but i need to believe that i am worth some treats now and then.
and treats there were. we went shopping and had fun doing it then had a good lunch at a nice restaurant. next there was a movie.....the first for me in several years, and we saw juno. it was a delight....laughs and tears, all the good stuff. we made dinner together that evening and it was a darn good meal too! it was such fun, and a nice way of bonding with a grown up daughter.
the next day, sunday, was the ultimate.......i was gifted with a massage, my first, and hopefully not the last. it was totally wonderful and luxurious and just perfect. the place was great, and altho our signals got a bit mixed due to misinformation from the receptionist, i enjoyed reading in front of the fireplace and sarah had a nice conversation with another client while we supposedly waited for eachother's "therapy" to be completed.
the next day the 3 of us went out for bagels and coffee and spent some pleasant time visiting and enjoying the atmosphere. before she left we hung pictures in the living, dining, kitchen areas, and finally the place looks warm and lived in. it's wonderful to have some of my favorite things on the walls again, and i feel it's a great improvement.
all together it gave me such a huge boost, and i hope that i will remember how great it felt to me and be able to pass on the same feeling to others when they need it. i plan to indulge myself now and then too.....that may take some doing, but i hope i can get to that place and just do it!
Labels: daughters, pampering, sarah
# posted by jini @ 11:57 AM 
